“What are you going to do what all that time?”
“Um, I don’t really know.”
“You don’t know?!?!? I know exactly what I’d do without my kids for five days. I’m so jealous. You’re so lucky!”
Luck. That’s not exactly how I look at my life. Have I seen God’s hand of provision pulling me through? Absolutely. But lucky? Not so much.
And yet, I get this all the time. Every Wednesday that my daughter is with her dad – “Oh, I kill for one day a week without my kids!” Yeah, I get it. It is nice to have a day to do the grocery shopping alone and make my doctor’s appointments. But that also means no Wednesday library activities or playdates with our friends at the park while everyone else is getting together (and for some reason, it seems like they are always on Wednesdays!)
We get it every other weekend when the triplets are with their mom – “Wow, I’d love to have a date night scheduled with my husband every other week.” Yeah, but how often do we actually get to go out? Not very. And when you factor in how many birthday parties, family functions and other special activities they miss, is it really worth it? Not to mention that we only get to all go to church together once in a great while because daughter P is with her dad every Sunday.
So you see, my “free” time comes with a lot of sacrifices. To be honest, sacrifices I don’t really want to make. This week my whole family is gone for 5 days. Sure, it was really nice to go to IKEA and shop. Then I ended up going to the movies by myself. But you know what I saw? Cinderella. Because all my girls had already seen it with their other families. And while it’s kind of a luxury to go to a movie alone, I would have given anything to have my three daughters there with me.
On day three you know what I did?
I cleaned my fridge. High excitement here, folks!
I’m not trying to be too hard on you moms. I get it. Being a mom is hard. We all need time to ourselves. Heck, sometimes just to go to the bathroom! I am all for Mom’s Night Out. and getting a chance to unwind. But understand, those of us who have to be without our kids, we miss our kids, and would give anything to have them here with us all the time. We will gladly give up every free moment to have what you have.